Abortion discussion

Abortion topic

Table of Contents

*Discussion & Facts for pro abortionists

*Videos, images and related statistics

*Frequent Answers to varied questions

*Counseling those considering abortion

*Helps for men & women regretful of abortion

*Crisis Pregnancy resources

*Donations opportunities

*Adoption information

*Exhortation and Examination for Christians

*Additional Resources for investigation

Before we examine ...

If you are pro abortion, please reason and think about what's talked about here. You could see something in a diff perspective or learn something new, or understand something that you didnt realize before. Let's take the emotion out of it and look rationally. Ok?

Appreciate your patience and your time. Bear with me... even if you dont agree, at least look at what's presented. Some you will know and some will be new. please watch the video links as well, it's an important part of this convo. The only thing that can be said is to think seriously about it all. Appreciate your willingness to take an honest look through all of this.

We'll look at science and religion.

1st... on abortion, How does America compare to the rest of the world? (Click)

Please take into consideration that (see chart below) the overall vast majority of current abortions are not by necessity, (not due to the mothers life being in actual jeopardy). Also the "mother's life" is 99.9% saveable today thru a modern procedure called C-section.

Babies born early as premies are able to be cared for in Natal ICU units at hospitals. And act as a safe womb.

For babies that are in early life stages thru premie [and birthing age]... Soon the artificial womb technology (already in progress) will be available.

An entire baby industry is available where....Life at earliest stage is created in medical labs and implanted in women's wombs, so those with fertility issues can have babies. It is a human life being implanted in the womb.

Anyway... looking at the abortion debate:

What Does modern Science tell us?

Science has said life begins at conception, it's a known fact. We cannot only accept just what parts science reveals to fit our personal worldviews. Truth is truth even if you dont like it. Some areas matter - such as biology. Christians value life. And explain, humans are image bearers of our Creator. He designed us to be & function "a certian way". He creates all humans, and we have no right to torturous murder babies, as if sacrificing them to the Devil (as in old ancient [and modern] pagan times.)

Abortion became a thing only after the sexual revolution of the 60s. Both stem from the same issue. Not wanting to live as God designed them; rebelling against God and His plan for their life. It's simple.

You can clearly see it. They just want Sex with no consequences, and that includes not to be within marriage to one man and one woman for life as God designed for humans. It's sinful sexual debotchery that is embraced by those who are slaves to sin and Satan. They take pleasure in sin since its all they've ever known.

99.9% Reasons people end a baby's life in the womb:

1. Don't want anyone esp family to know you had sex/got pregnant.

2. Dont want responsibility/accountability for sex outside marriage

3. To prevent stretch marks, feeling ill, etc 9 months.

4. Don't want a burden of being a mom

5. Wants freedom

6. Money. Selfishly wants it all, and not to invest in a child

7. Don't want children to affect your career

8. Lack of respect of & lack of fear of God

9. Afraid the kid might be deformed mentally or physically in some way, and therefore not valuing their life as an image bearer of God.

10. Don't think they're accountable to God.

11. They don't want to live by the orig design as God made mankind, [to live in the parameters of His design for women, sex & procreation. And that is because we are fallen broken people in a sin stained world. So if we are broken, we cant live and work rightly as designed, unless the Creator fixes us [salvation]. And the fallen do not grasp this deep concept in all its intricacies. So they just reject it all.]

12. Forced by a boyfriend, pimp, the man she's a mistress of, or any man she had sex with.

13. Not sure who of the multiple sex partners is the father.

Abortion statistics:

*Guttmacher was the President of Planned Parenthood. These are the PP statistics.

>> 98.6% of abortions are committed for selfish reasons.

Scientific facts:

Progressive/liberal Pro abortion women say things like:

Men have no say in abortion. Men have no voice or rights to talk about this... but then 🙃

... also liberal feminists be like:

The claim that men can have babies is bonkers! It doesnt line up with reality. But in liberal beliefs say they can have babies.... 🤷‍♀️ then men now DO have a say. so You can no longer use that, to try to silence men.

Also, do pro abortionists realize, you say you dont want men in the discussion, hands off, cant even discuss it etc. Do you realize roe v wade was decided at SCOTUS by 9 men? Yes, m e n. The very ones you don't want making any decisions about abortion.

They decided its OK to kill babies, why? Men get women pregnant, so of course immoral men want out of all the responsibility, incl financial responsibility. If they can catch a cow and get "free milk" they can go cow to cow with out any responsibility. Use you, and off to the Next.

Many pro abortionists argue that "if men hate abortion, get a vasectomy". If women are saying men have no rights to say or demand anything of a woman's body...Why are women telling men what to do with their body? The govt doesn't require women to have their tubes tied at 13. Why are you trying to cut up men? That's evil too.

What about sterilization?

This is wrong because behind this scheme is Satan, who wants to try to prevent God's plans for mankind, throughly mankind, by mankind. Any and every human he can prevent from living or becoming a Christian is his ultimate plan. He is evil, a deciever, a murderer,, and masquerades as an angel of light. He blinds people to the truth and hopes for their destruction.

God has a plan for every baby and every future person & generation from that child. Among those might be ones who find the cure for cancer, who do something very important, be the President, an important General, or the best speaker on important matters that the world looks up to, or solid preacher of truth. Any possibility. Only God knows.

Every life has value, and Satan wants to destroy them. Do not align yourself with Satan. Instead, follow the design God has made for men and women, marraige and the fruits of it. Avoid selfishness and focus on living rightly and honoring God and human life. 👍

An open letter to pro abortionists

Looking at the biological facts, the child is not your body. The child is living on the other side of your stomach. Biology 101.

The location doesn't negate the life. It's like we are all in a bldg together. If you standing or sitting in a diff room than me, you still exist. You are still human. If you live in another Stare or in an ICU or PICU enclosure you are just in a diff place. Still human. You just reside in another place. Where you live and exist doesn't matter. That you are human and exist, matters.

Example: If theres a murderous gunman in a preschool school, your a child's safe in a locked secured classroom. Behind a protective barrier. The womb is the protective barrier, the protective safe room. Another example: The murderous one is the abortion doctor w his murder tools killing the child, and the mom is like the Uvalde police just standing there watching & allowing them all get slaughtered. Instead of a gun the avortionist got knifes, scissors, prying tongs, and dismemberment machines, to crush a baby's skull, tear it limb from limb, blood everywhere. The outrage.

We have no right to condemn someone to death. God made every person, and while all are stained by the sin of this fallen world, while there is suffering, death and disease, we are to value life.

There's thousands of examples where people are born with half a body, conjoined twins or disabled by autism, other deformities, or retardation. some have one arm or one leg. But in life, this happens too... kids, teens and adults people are disabled in life thru drug usage & related accidents, paralized due to eating fungas, farm accidents, tree trimming or home workshop, or car repair shop, manufacturing job, workplace injury and car accidents. Disabled from disease like MS, Parkinson or cancer, or even need transplants cuz of covid. We don't kill these people.

The world is full of suffering. It's that way due to Man's Fall [Adam in Eden].

Humans are image bearers of our Creator. We are to value life.

These people can and do live good fulfilled lives. Some are motivational speakers like Nick Vujicic who was born with no arms & no legs. Or Jodi Erickson Tada paralyzed from neck down from a diving accident. Justin Peters born with ceribral palsey and lead great lives; even if they dont "cobtribute to society" in the way you think they should... God has plans for them being in this world. Look at those with no arms globally who are artists with paint brushes in their mouth or their feet, and live a happy good life. Those with diabetes lose their sight or have feet amputated. Military troops have all kinds of life altering injuries. So are we supposed to kill them all just because they cannot live able bodied? But you turn around and advocate for "rights" for everything under the sun except babies to be safe in the womb and to be born. So do you advocate for disabled people and their rights but not unborn babies? There's a reason behind that evil mentality.

Babies are victims of murder. How can people be ok with murder esp of innocent babies? It begins with sin & hatred in the heart. Plus, If the reason for killing a innocent baby is to hide that you got pregnant, or to prevent stretch marks... that's insanity. To murder someone and be an executioner over that? No, you fear God the giver of life, & you give the child up for adoption if you cannot raise it.

Babies are the fastest adopted children in orphanages and foster care.

Abortionists try to say no one wants to adopt, or try to say no pro life people want to adopt. That's blatantly untrue, actually until recently, Christians were the only ones adopting.

Many adopt various ages

So then, that's not the issue. Let's just look at the heart of the issue.

Here is very eye opening video that will highly likely change your mind.

1. 180 challenge link 👈🔎

seen by over 6 million people

Orig ref. Students for life Viral Video

Additional list of plain arguments for life (soon)

2. What is it? Link👈🔎 (free movie)

What about Exodus 21? What about it? It is about miscarriage.

SO then...?

When does life begin? Let's look at Science :

A 2011 college textbook teaches:

Whether a being is a member of a given species is something that can be determined scientifically, by an examination of the nature of the chromosomes in the cells of living organisms. In this sense there is no doubt that from the first moments of its existence, an embryo conceived from human sperm and eggs is a human being." (Atheist) Peter Singer, Cambridge University Press, 2011

Embryology is clear: It is a scientific fact that human life begins at conception. Therefore, Abortion at any stage in develpment kills a human being. That's science not religion. The debate isnt over when life begins that's settled science, the debate is over when life is valuable. Pro lifers argue every human being regardless of race, gender, size, age, ability is valuable simply because they're a member of the valuable human race. You don't earn your right to life by having certain characteristics (like the "correct" race, gender, size, age, ability). No, you have it in virtue of being human. Some try to divide humanity into two categories: valuable humans and non valuable humans. This strategy attempts to exclude certain humans from having certain rights. We went through that before - the nazi's referred to some humans as life unworthy of life. Blacks were considered 3/5ths of a human. Pro life proponents (religious or not) believe all humans have a right to life, including unborn human babies. Despite what pro abortionists say, this isnt merely a religious issue it's a Human Rights issue.

Look at what Biologists say....

According to a 2019 large study of global biologists, scientists.... 96% said that Life begins at the moment of Conception.

👉(The others refused to answer, thinking this a survey asked by Christians and people who believe in God. < you can see the 4% didn't answer, but had an answer that would line up with the 96% who answered, so let's round up... to 100%🤷‍♀️). 💥100% of the survey "responders" 🤣 answered and agreed, life begins at fertilization.

Biology science-research already showed this was true in 2015, as noted from 2011, and even before then. It's really a no brainer if you look at the science, and today we know. Statistics also show...only 23% of pro abortionists don't know life begins at conception. I think they need to look into the science 🤣. But if you were one of them until today, congrats, you are now educated. 👍

So you can't say it was skewed to a Conservative, Republican or Christian/Religious perspective. Atheist, non religious and Democrat liberals were the main largest group who were asked, by their expert scientific biologists views.

According to Christianity when does life begin?

First we need to note:

God is the Creator and sustained of all that exists, all life. It is by him that all things have life and contiunue to exist and live on earth, and His power and sovereignty keeps everything existing in eternal realm as well as within time in human realm.

Colossians 1:16

For in Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities⁠—all things have been created through Him and for Him

Hebrews 1:3

God, [the Father] [has]... in these last days spoke to us in His Son, whom He appointed heir of all things, through whom also He made the worlds, who is the radiance of His glory and the exact representation of His nature, and upholds all things by the word of His power; who, having accomplished cleansing for sins, sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high

John 1:3

All things were made through him [Jesus (God)], and without him was not any thing made that was made.

Now we can see:

At the spark if fertilization God creates a new human, with a soul and unique DNA. And further Revelation in Scripture tells us He knew us long ago before we were even created.

For I was brought forth in iniquity from the moment my mother conceived me. But you desire honesty from the womb, teaching me wisdom even there.

Psalms 51:5‭-‬6

For I was brought forth in iniquity from the moment my mother conceived me. But you desire honesty from the womb, teaching me wisdom even there.

Psalms 51:5‭-‬6

Your eyes have seen my unshaped substance Psalm 139:16

And in Your book all of them were written

The days that were formed for me,

When as yet there was not one of them.

Ps. 139:13-14

Jeremiah 1:5

“Before I formed you in the innermost parts I knew you,

And before you came out from the womb I set you apart"

Gal 1. 15-16: God, who had set me apart from my mother’s womb and called me through His grace, was pleased to reveal His Son in me so that I might proclaim Him as good news among [mankind]

Ps 22:9-10

Yet You [God] are He who brought me out of the womb...You have been my God from my mother’s womb.

In the Bible refers to pregnant women as ones who give birth. Here stating the woman "she is with child" claiming the human being in the womb is a baby human. humanity.

Genesis 16:11

And the angel of Yahweh said to her further, “Behold, you are with child, And you will bear a son

Also see, Jeremiah 31:8, Isaiah 7:14, 1 Samuel 4:19, Judges 13:3, Genesis 38:24, Exodus 21:22, Matthew 1:23, Matthew 1:18

Romans 9:9-11

About this time next year Sarah shall have a son. And also when Rebekah had conceived children by one man, our forefather Isaac, though they were not yet born and had done nothing either good or bad- in order that God's purpose of election might continue, not because of works but because of him who calls

We are also told in Exodus 21:22-25 “If people are fighting and hit a pregnant woman and she gives birth prematurely [could be miscarriage at early weeks or later, baby injured or dies etc] but there is no serious injury, the offender must be fined whatever the woman’s husband demands and the court allows.

But if there is serious injury, you are to take LIFE for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, burn for burn, wound for wound, bruise for bruise."

Those who kill or murder children are to be put to death. We are to protect & defend the unborn human life.

Of the things God hates, He stated, "Hands that Shed Innocent Blood" Proverbs 6:17

God told Abraham, before he even had 1 child: "I will greatly multiply your seed as the stars of the heavens and as the sand which is on the seashore." Gen 22:17-18

Also defending the unborn right to life. The Bible also talks about the womb and children in the womb making actions. Not just in Luke, but it it also in Genesis 25.

From a Biblical truth perspective let's also not forget.

In Genesis

" Isaac entreated Yahweh on behalf of his wife because she was barren; and Yahweh was moved by his entreaty. So Rebekah his wife conceived. But the children struggled together within her; and she said, “If it is so, why then am I this way?” So she went to inquire of Yahweh. And Yahweh said to her, “Two nations are in your womb... her days to give birth were fulfilled, and behold, there were twins in her womb." Gen 25: 19-24

We don't know how early on that they struggled together, it could've been 7 weeks, 10 weeks, whenever. But look also here... God had already predetermined His plan for designing them. He had their life planned out. They would create 2 nations.

Psalm 139:16

Your eyes [God] have seen my unshaped substance; And in Your book all of them were written The days that were formed for me, when as yet there was not one of them.

John the Baptist in his mother's womb lept during the 2nd trimester. John recognized God in the womb...when Jesus was in the 1st trimester. Luke 1:41-44 These are things not able to be done if one isnt alive.

Regardless, let's also point out - that Jesus was already promised to come 4,000 years before he arrived... but also all humanity that will ever exist was already planned by [triune] God... and so we've all pre-existed in God's mind and plan [before the world began] for at least 6,000 yrs already, including the remaining who are still to be born. 🤷‍♀️

Revelation 13:8 tells us: "The Lamb slain from the foundation of the world." The sacrifice on Calvary Cross was to pay for the sins of all who will believe. God knows every one of them. They're already written in the Book of Life. [*meaning the ones who will be saved, the ones who are eternally saved, who will be revealed on that last day, as belonging to Christ]. So everyone who will ever exist, has already been known and planned by God... before he even created the world.

God values His IMAGE BEARERS [humans]. He gives life, and wants people to live. But fallen people do fallen evil things.

We also know abortion was not allowed from the 1st century; in the Didache.

So now you know, both science and religion say life begins at conception/fertilization. 😊

More below...

Image gallery

video here

Whether on the other side of the womb or in the other room, you are still you. You are human from conception. Your life begins at fertilization.

Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you

Jeremiah 1:5

Of the things God hates, He stated, "Hands that Shed Innocent Blood" Proverbs 6:17

10 more Reasons

Even though I will hold that scientist biologists and Christians are right...a unborn baby receives "life" at conception, there are some teens and college age students who think the baby doesnt have a fully developed brain so it's not a human. But guess what? Neither is their brain. Surprise, Humans brains are not fully developed until 25 for women, and up to 30-40 for men. Should all these people be able to be killed by anyone at any time and we just call their death abortion? ***This is reasons anyone under 26 should actually take time to get educated about abortion, instead of run around fueled by misinformation and emotions. Stop getting involved in things you can't comprehend yet. Stop letting schools and propoganda activists brainwash you.

Science is clear. God has been clear as well

Update: May 2022

Even though there's news that SCOTUS has overturned Abortion at the national level, and even though some states will still encourage and legally allow women to end the life of unborn children...

It is also important to note that SCOTUS now has 3 women out of the 9 justices, and 1 black man.

In the past it was just 9 white men.

So 3 justices are women, and from the SCOTUS ruling it was determined that it is wrong for the Federal Govt to take the sovereignty of each State away, to push a national law legalizing it. It belongs at the State level, as with most all other laws.

If we look at the new unscientific liberal view that men can somehow miraculously have babies... then the original 9 SCOTUS men can have a voice and opinion on abortion, as can all men. But if you mean women, pretending to be men... then you mean women. Stop playing word-salad unless you want to be locked in the loony bin.

SCOTUS original & current ruling doesnt change the fact that people are still going to help to, encourage and celebrate murdering babies, as well as actually continue to murder them, unless it's banned nationwide like other countries.

The Constitution clearly states equality for all, and that in America everyone is guaranteed LIFE, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. You cannot trample on another persons rights and life just to sinfully live selfishly.

You have total ability to control your body before sex- use contraception, or 🤷‍♀️ reap the consequences that body biology can result in a life being created, if you have sex before marraige. I am not endorsing this, but if you are going to have sex outside God's design for marraige... use one of the many contraception options... if not... give birth and give the child up for adoption. [C section now available in modern times].

You can be on birth control pill & use condom. If you allow a man to not wear a condom, 🤷‍♀️ you had the power to control of your body but chose to let the man have control over you. That's your fault and the aftermath is your responsibility.

When life is created....Choose Adoption not murder. The baby isn't your body, it's living in your body, as God designed reproduction for all females. You have control over your body, so control it with abstinence or contraception. Abortion should have criminal repercussions for intentional murder. Also anyone who has had an abortion, or held the view that it's okay... will be held responsible for such evil on the day of Judgment, unless they Repent and turn to Jesus.

In closing...

June 2022 update

Justice Alito concluded the SCOTUS reversal ruling by stating: "Abortion presents a profound moral question." And he is right. All morals come from God [YHWH]. And murder is wrong.

Here is very eye opening video that you need to watch and consider...

1. 180movie.com abortion vid 👈🔎

seen by over 6 million people

2. What is it? Abortion pt2👈🔎

Science tells us life begins at conception. And the Bible tells us what God has revealed. Both knowing our life since before He created the world, and tells us He created us in the womb. Taking a life is murder.

Adoption exists. The focus should always have been on chastity till marriage, and babies in that holy wedded union. Life is valued when it is in accordance with God's design.

I don't advocate for sex outside marraige, but unsaved people will continue to do it. If one does live in sexual sin, be a responsible person and use contraceptives like condoms and birth control. Be in control. That's how you have actual control over your body. Before a new body a new life is growing in yours.

Watch a baby grow

......from conception to just before birth

Humanity. All humans are equal humans.

Just because the govt legalized something doesn't mean it's morally OK. It can be wrong. Just like with holocaust. Just like calling Jews and Blacks not human. Or only 3/5ths human. You cannot say a baby is less human if it is human. It is a human life that should never be aborted. It should be protected.

If one wants to live in Sexual Revolution, be responsible adult and use contraceptives like condoms and birth Control. That's how you have control trol over your body. Before a new body a new life is growing in yours.

Think about it

The future generations will look in horror at the evil of abortion done in the USA. It's already worse than the holocaust 😥. And for all we know the national and world courts will drag women (& abortion "doctors" & company ceo's who helped fund abortions, & the men who funded, encouraged, or participated in or forced abortions), before the courts just like the nazis for murdering people.

Statistics:

USA unborn babies murdered in abortion:

64 million unborn babies murdered 1973 thru 2022

1.5 million unborn babies murdered each year

19.2 million unborn black babies murdered since 1973

4,400 abortions from rape or incest, in 2022 [.086%]

Globally unborn babies murdered in abortion:

20.5 million murdered babies in 2022.

1.7 Trillion babies murdered since 1980.

Did you know abortion genocide is the same as satanic worship of molech? Parents sacrificed their children to that false god. They burned the baby to death.

Ancient Jewish writers noted that by the time the children were sacrificed the arms of the idol made of brass were red-hot. During the sacrifice the priests would bang drums as loud as they could to drown out the screams of the babies.

The Bible condemned this idol that went by various names — Moloch, Chemosh and Kronos — depending on the culture, and the wicked practice.

The only difference is, abortion businesses profit off being the hitmen. They get paid to murder the baby, but also profit off selling the dead baby parts for science experiments.

Abortion is murder

BE THE CHANGE

Its time to Change our convictions and behavior.

Let's stop murdering babies and

start being responsible in controlling our own bodies

to prevent pregnancy, (before even having sex).

Frequent Questions and Hope & Help:

Don't Kill your Baby.

There is help available both in counseling and services that can help you for the first 2 years of your Child's life.

Counseling help is available, & they do care about you and the child.

Care in Counseling; heling women considering abortion

What are the options then besides abortion for an unwed woman who is pregnant ?

We can look at one thing discussed here and there in this resource article - pregnancy crisis centers. They exist to help pregnant women. Counseling, giving an ear, helping with mothers fears, getting free ultrasound, helping with free resources, option for free help with gofundingme funding to have the baby, resources for adoption. And so much more. They aren't evil torturous places some politicians would have you believe. The real torture is abortion brutally murdering a baby.

Christians, Churches and Pregancy centers help beyond just when the baby is born. So do not believe the lies of pro abortionists on that issue.

Crisis pregnancy agencies can help with the expectant mothers: there is a nation wide pregnancy support system that can help with

Rent, utilities, medical bills, diapers and groceries. Including setting up, getting funding for baby registry items. Centers can also help a mother through a difficult month or two, or helping with ‘first/last’ payments, and churches they belong to will help them in many ways beyond that. They are not alone. You are not alone. There is help and hope.

You also can help these women by donating to crisis pregnancy clinics & organizations.

Will God punish people for killing babies?

The babies that were killed in the womb will be in Heaven. God will judge the unsaved; those not rught with God through Christ... Not only will God Judge the abortion clinic staff and abortion surgeons, SCOTUS, the entire group of people who were pro abortion while abortion was legal, pimps, sex traffickers, the mother, father who murdered the baby, [everyone who encouraged and participated in purposefully allowing, encouraging and ending that human life] will be held accountable. And the baby, each baby, will stand there at the Judgement as a witness and victim when the judgement takes place. That child will look them all in the face. You will not escape the judgement or wrath of God if you die in your sins.

What hope is there then?

CHANGE STARTS WITH YOU

Anyone who has had an abortion, or held the view that abortion is okay... is trying to justify murder, but also is in danger of judgement by God. They will be held responsible for such evil on the day of Judgment, unless they Repent and Turn to Jesus.

Have you had an abortion?

Do you Guilt over killing your unborn baby?

There's hope:

If you have had an abortion, You can seek forgiveness from God and become born again. God is willing to save you, & transform you into a new creation through Jesus. Sin stained the world at the Fall in Eden, but God worked out His plan to bring redemption to mankind thru the Messiah "who would take away the sins of the world". If you are ashamed, struggling, burdened with the guilt of your crimes against God... you can be free and forgiven. Jesus made that possible. He has saved millions and can do so for you too. Simply confess your sins to God, recieve Jesus as your Savior, God, Master and Lord today.

Jesus said, "Come to me all who are burdened and heavy laden, and I will give you rest."

To understand the Gospel better and recieve Christ >> NeedGod.com. Surender all to Jesus. He is waiting for you to turn to Him, today. God bless you

The Apostle Paul murdered innocents before he came to Jesus. He repented, was forgiven and lead a Christlike life after. And was embraced by Christians then and now. We are all sinners who need Jesus as our Savior. Every one of us.

Regret your abortion(s)?

If you are a regretful post-abortive woman and need a space to talk about your sin and regret, and be pointed to the hope and true healing that Christ offers you pls speak to folk at this helpful safe space.

See resources below

Christ can Redeem and Restore

Forgiveness after an Abortion

Dealing with Regrets

How do I forgive myself - Finding Peace with Your Past

For All:

Other resources

Abortion & immorality (Bible related video)

Do aborted babies go to Heaven?

Safe in the arms of God (book)

Book- Abortion

Dealing with Past Regrets